The picture in our minds
If you pay attention to the news and even the entertainment on youtube etc. negativity is the thing that is most common to be watched. It is everywhere. There is a huge scarcity culture, because it sells. We tend to remember negative words more versus positive ones. Proven through an experiment
by researchers Marc Trussler and Stuart Soroka, run at McGill University in Canada.
We are conditioned to be aware of negativity because it is all around us. So it’s easier to stay in fear. Because that is what you have known, that’s what society is almost promoting. So if we want to stop staying in fear it’s almost as if we trying to change our attention to what we perceive around us. It becomes harder if we are used to feeling this way and having it reflect back to us through our media consumption and also think about our parents raising us with this mentality as well. Who were likely shown the same example by their parents and so on. So why is it so hard to come out of our autopilot fear minds and experience more peace and joy instead, while we’re programed to lean towards fear?
Feeling joy is scary. In order for us to feel joy and other genuine positive emotions, we have to be vulnerable first. But because we are used to be protected by our minds, to not feel scary emotions as such, it’s easier to stay in fear. When you know that most of the time we are trying to avoid difficult emotions and we rather stay comfortable right were we are. It can be hard to be open to the possibility that there is another way. Because being vulnerable is not something most of us are looking forward to. Even courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy research professor Brené Brown
tried to find a way out.
But her research showed that if you want to feel joyful, it requires being vulnerable. Accepting that yes there is a possibility that it won’t last, but feeling everything anyway. But here’s the thing, you experience fear after you’ve had a thought that caused a trigger, a fear trigger. And Because you have certain triggers that make you feel fearful, you first have to become aware of the triggers that make you go into the feelings of fear. If you know what thoughts triggered you, you can also reprogram your mind. Becoming aware is necessary if you want to reprogram your mind. You’ll have to get to the core of the fearful story you’ve been playing in your head. So knowing what fearful stories your mind is playing, understanding what happens in your mind, can help you to become aware of why you feel the fear. And when you can heal the triggers that lie beneath your fear, you won’t feel the need to stay in the fear mode anymore. When you’re able to choose joy over fear, when you choose to be grateful anyway, and heal the underlying fear triggers. You can feel so much more peace and joy in your life. It is just a matter of becoming aware and healing the underlying triggers. When you do that, when you start to consciously take action to ask yourself “what story am I telling myself and is it true” for example, you won’t feel addicted to fear anymore.
Do you want to get starred to choose joy and love over fear? The first step is to connect with your heart and to truely listen to your desire. Through being able feel what you want and need. You’re able to make choices that will benefit you instead of letting life happen to you. Trough my free Source meditation I help you connect with that beautiful place within you.