Have you ever resisted the feeling of joy, in fear that something terrible would happen. Do you find yourself in fear more than feeling satisfied and happy? You’re not the only one. So what are the 2 biggest reasons why we’re addicted to fear?
Well first of all it is it is important to understand that fear is a mechanism of our body to warn us about possible danger. And although this is a good thing, our brain can also overreact as a champ. Your brain decides if something is a possible threat or not, through experiences from our past. This is necessary to protect us, especially growing up. To understand the dangers of life or for example what food your body can’t tolerate and what situations can result in not having your primary needs met. But overtime this mechanism can also stand in your way of taking risks, and even experiencing joy and love. But more about that later. If you think about the way your brain remembers which experiences caused you pain, made you feel lonely, wrong or not good enough, it ’s not so strange that your mind wants to protect you from ever having to experience those feelings again. For example, when your older brother treated you as though you weren’t smart enough, irritating etc. You would find a way to not feel like this again. You might try to people please or be on your own in your household, because you don’t want to feel not good enough again. You see, it is not so much only about life threatening situations your mind want to protect you from anymore. Your brain is also trained to eliminate the feelings that don’t feel good.
What has that to do with joy and love? Well, have you ever felt that when you where in a really good place, you feel happy, everything is oké. Your mind wanders off and you feel as though it’s not good to experience those feelings wholeheartedly. Because, what if you feel them and they will soon go away. You think something like “This isn’t true, this won’t last” and there you go. You’re now in the fear mode all over again. And you’re not alone. For a lot of people the feeling of fear has taking up a big piece of what they know as their reality. And it can get more intense than my previous examples. Did you know that, “anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S.,” affecting around 40 million adults — almost 1 in 5 people today? But why is it that we’re so caught up about what could go wrong?
It becomes harder if we are used to feeling this way and having it reflect back to us through our media consumption and also think about our parents raising us with this mentality as well.